Being Slim a Sin?

 

Body shaming has, unfortunately, become all too common in the 21st century. It takes real courage to help someone feel good about themselves, and only a few people actually do it. Regardless of age, we can all feel numb at times. There are days when I question if I’m physically fit enough. People have body shamed me, asking, “Are you even intaking oxygen for your survival?” or saying, “You look like you could fly away with the breeze.” If my good nature, intentions, character, and generosity go unnoticed, what else could possibly matter?

 

Sometimes, I wish I had the same audacity as those who make mean comments about someone’s body—just so I could reply that I am stronger in all the ways that truly count. In any relationship, is it ever acceptable to make such comments in front of others? I remember how excited I once was to make friends in college, only to regret it because one gym-obsessed guy grabbed my hand and said, “Look how lean and thin you are, do eat.” I always feel embarrassed to respond—I don’t want to sound harsh. But standing in front of the mirror reminds me to love myself for who I am and who I’ve grown to be: for my authenticity, my strength, and my willpower to face the world.

 

When my parents left me in the hostel for six months, the food I ate made me sick. I was diagnosed with gastroenteritis and hospitalized. In those low moments, I expected only my parents to be there for me, but surprisingly, my social media circle reached out with messages. My happiness was short-lived, though, when I read, “You are becoming even leaner.” Sometimes, “Get well soon” feels like just a myth. Indian weddings are renowned for their vibrant culture, food, customs, and traditions—but for many, attending family functions is a nightmare. At one such event, a distant uncle bluntly remarked, “If you stay this slim, who will marry you?”

People bullied me for knowing that I’m a vegetarian. I genuinely sometimes want to focus on my food routine. I wake up and get ready find no time to stuff food inside my mouth. I will have food in my bag, but I won’t eat as I will be attending my classes. While I have money and am not in class, I still can’t stop by the shop and get something for myself, as I will be rushing to catch the train. The more horrifying situation that I prayed shouldn’t happen to others like me is that “when I’m hungry and caught up with no class, and still not a penny to afford my snack.  Whenever you feel body shamed, remember you are attractive, adorable, alluring, and just amazing.

Let’s refuse to body shame—and let’s never allow body shamers to normalize their hurtful behavior.