Privacy

 

Privacy, in my opinion, is allowing individuals to have their own space and respecting their personal boundaries. Life often feels like smooth sailing when it is lived privately. In today’s world, people tend to be over the moon about their achievements—ranging from children scoring high marks in board examinations or competitive exams to adults celebrating promotions and career milestones. But do achievements in academics or professions truly teach one how to lead a private life? Sometimes, silence itself carries an aura more powerful than words.

From the very day a child is born, parents experience immeasurable joy. Many feel an urge to show the world that their child is fortunate to have them. This is often expressed through grand celebrations, especially the first birthday. Today, the number of tiers on a cake seems to decide the wealth and status of the parents. Inviting relatives, friends, and colleagues is a joyful affair—but what about celebrations within the four walls of a home? Does a child, after all, feel deprived if the birthday is simple and intimate? I believe this choice should be left to individuals—to make it a big bash or to keep it personal yet meaningful.

Parents often take pride in letting others know that their children are excelling academically. But what happens when a child fails an exam? Will the same parents feel comfortable sharing that news? More often than not, the answer is no. Why? Because of the fear—“What will others think if they know my child has failed?” This reveals a harsh truth: achievements are displayed to assure the world that we are not failures. It is intentional and deeply ingrained.

Yet failures are merely a part of life’s journey, just as achievements are. To me, the true achievement of a son or daughter lies in being well-mannered, respectful, and grounded. That itself is more than enough to share—if at all—with someone who visits briefly and knows little about the real struggles behind success.

Teenagers certainly need parental guidance, especially in the use of technology and in choosing friendships. If a child willingly shares daily happenings, it should be encouraged. But if they seek privacy, parents must learn to draw a respectful line, balancing care with trust.

For young adults, privacy often revolves around career choices—higher studies, professional growth, startups, or future aspirations. It also includes personal life: relationship status, love, engagements, marriage, or weddings. Oversharing such aspects can invite jealousy, unnecessary comparisons, gossip, or even turn one’s life into a topic of casual discussion at dinner tables. Personal life is not meant to be public property.

I consider myself an honest person, yet a quote makes me reflect otherwise:
“Ask me no secrets, and I will tell no lies.”
Perhaps honesty sometimes survives best when accompanied by silence.

Reasons to Keep Things Private

The concept of the evil eye, known as “nazar” in Turkish culture, is deeply rooted in many societies. It is believed to be a form of negative energy caused by jealousy or envy, capable of bringing harm or misfortune. This belief has existed for centuries and continues to influence how people guard their happiness and success.

The world, in reality, is least interested in celebrating another’s success wholeheartedly. Human nature—knowingly or unknowingly—harbors envy. A new house, a new car, personal growth, or professional success can stir hidden resentment in others. Smiles may appear genuine, but behind them, jealousy often simmers quietly.

In such a world, privacy becomes not weakness, but wisdom. Guarding one’s life, joys, and progress is a form of self-respect. Not everything that shines needs to be displayed; some things are meant to glow silently.